My heart has been heavy over the past couple of weeks. I learned that my son’s very good friend has spent half the summer fighting leukemia. This boy and my son became close friends last year — they played earlier in the summer, and then we didn’t hear from him again. I figured they were just busy.
Busy is an understatement.
Learning that a precious little seven-year old life has been hijacked by a terrible disease is enough to stop me in my current tracks. I spend so much time planning for my sons’ future college educations. Now, it all seems silly.
We’re not promised a tomorrow. My seven year old wants to see a beach with the best sea shells. If we are blessed to see this March, then we will take both our little boys to a beach that is known for excellent sea shells.
I’ve decided to loosen my financial belt a bit. If it takes us a few months longer to reach our emergency fund goal, so be it. I need to find a better balance when it comes to balancing our long-term goals with our current lifestyle.
If my sons have to pay half of their college tuition because of these choices, I think they’ll understand. I want to give them memories and experiences right now AND in the future…if we’re so lucky as to see one.
- I’m going to remain consumer debt-free.
- I’m going to build my emergency fund to equal $20,000.
- I’m going to spend more quality time with both of my sons.
- I’m going to play, laugh and be present when with my family.
- I’m going to try and be more grateful for each day that I’m given.
- I’m going to balance my family’s future financial health with our current lifestyle.
That last point basically means that if my seven year old wants to take a family bike ride to a local ice cream shop for a treat on occasion, I’m going to say yes.
If he wants to see amazing seashells and we can swing a short budget trip to take him to do that (without accumulating any debt, of course), I’m going to say yes.
If he wants nothing more than to go spend his allowance at Magic Mountain by playing video games and riding go carts — you guessed it — I’m going to say yes.
My perspective has shifted, once again. Thanks for coming along for the ride.
On a much lighter note, later this week I’ll be announcing a fun giveaway! Do you like cash? Do you like wine? If so, you won’t want to miss this. Stay tuned.
Have you ever received unexpected news that completely shifted your perspective on what is important?