Warning! This post might get a little deep. If you’re not into the whole meaning of life question, you’ll probably want to skip this one.
Still with me? OK, but don’t say I didn’t warn you.
As I mentioned in an earlier post, I’m at a crossroads in my life. It’s one of those big forks that makes you reflect back over where you’ve been and look ahead to where you’re going. It’s a time to decide what I have in my life that’s working, and what can be thrown away.
It’s also a time where I take a look around me and wonder, what is the point of all this?
There are basically three schools of thought on how major life upsets come to be:
- Predetermined events appear in our lives at certain times to help us learn lessons and grow.
- We manifest our circumstances and bring events into existence based on what we focus on.
- Life is just a random unfolding events.
You might be wondering which school of thought I agree with. The truth is, I think life is a combination of all three. That said, it doesn’t make the unexpected upheavals any easier to deal with.
There are a list of mental checkpoints I run through whenever something seemingly big happens in my life. It helps me to gauge how massive the current crisis is in the grand scheme of my life.
- In five years, how will this event register on my huge life events memory meter? In other words, is this current upset going to be something I always view as a major life event, or will it simply be remembered as a blip in the story of my life?
- How does this event affect my general health and well-being?
- How does this event affect my family’s general health and well-being?
Measuring the setback against the three checkpoints listed above helps me to gain some perspective. It also helps to remind myself that the sky is not falling. After all, I’ve had enough life experience to realize when things are simply temporarily unsettled.
So, whether you’ve planned for setbacks appearing your life or not, try to remember that everything is going to be OK. Most upsets are temporary.
And most endings are actually opportunities in disguise.