Sometimes life gets busier than we want. When this happens, sometimes friendships and relationships suffer.
I’m fortunate to have a few very old friends that I can meet up with every so often and our conversation can pick up right where it left off. As the mother of young kids, it’s difficult to get together with my friends and catch up. Especially if I’m chasing a curious two-year old boy around.
My friends are tolerant. They have little kids too, so they get it. But that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t enjoy spending more time with them.
The same thing goes with online relationships I’ve made through this blog. At times I’m more engaged, other times I’m dealing with obligations in my physical world. Second graders have an astonishing amount of homework. And two-year olds don’t like to go to sleep at bedtime.
At least, that’s how it is in our house lately.
Thankfully, after a recent two-week period where my two-year old stripped naked and peed his bed during every nap, he pooped in his bed. I say “thankfully,” because the sight of poop in his bed was enough to scare him right out of going to the bathroom in his bed. His bed has been a bathroom-free zone ever since. And my washing machine is getting a much needed rest.
But, I digress. the point of this post is not to share my challenges raising a toddler, it’s to explain the sadness I feel when I realize that I’ve hurt a relationship by my non-engagement.
For example, I was forming a great relationship with Joshua from the Non-Conformist Family until I repeatedly cancelled scheduled Skype sessions with him. Life got crazy and I was unable to take on anything outside of my physical world responsibilities. Joshua and his wife Sarah are fascinating and inspiring lifestyle designers. I’m bummed I dropped the ball on that emerging relationship.
I’m telling you this because I’m betting it’s happened to you too. Have you ever become so wrapped up in the day-to-day that you let relationships with people that are important to you slide?
The funny thing is, I’ve been working on restructuring my time to avoid this very annoyance.
Personal relationships are important to me and bring me more joy than any other facet of my life. Without amazing people with which to share my life, I would be miserable.
And yes, I know the old adage that we are born and die alone — but it’s the meaningful relationships in-between that add the flavor and complexity to our lives. They help us grow and feed us spiritually.
As we move into the busyness of the holiday season, I hope you’ll slow down the obligations in your life so you can enjoy time with the people that add richness and meaning to your life. When you look back at your life, you’ll remember times with friends and loved ones, but I’ll bet you won’t remember that extra day of errands you decided to run instead of meeting a friend for coffee.